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Need a Relationship Reset?

Smart phones can be a love / hate relationship for me. When you first get them they are super fast and everything normally works just the way you want them to. Click a button and boom your application is up and running. But what happens, is then you start to install more apps. You add…

It not you, It’s me!

They seemed like such a perfect couple. They spent years building up this relationship and it just looked to be an example to what so many people longed for. Day after day things just got better and better. They were inseparable! Every waking hour they thought about each other and just wanted to spend all…

10 Tips For Better Communication

Over the years, I have had the incredible opportunity to work with countless people and counsel them in the struggles and joys of life. I have learned a few helpful tips on how to communicate better. This list is not exhaustive, and I am sure I could write a book on this, but I hope…

The Relationship Competition

There was a point in my life where I wanted the perfect trophy wife. I think I was extremely patient because I didn’t wish to settle for less than my list of qualities that I created over the years. So when a girl would come around I would say well, she doesn’t have this or…

I Would Like A Relationship To Go Please!

Every Monday I have this tradition with the youth kids from the church. I go and pick them all up, spend time with them, and then on the way to the church right before we get there, there is a Maccas (McDonalds). The tradition is to yell out “WHO WANTS ICECREAM!?” and all the kids…

Stop Playing Games!

Growing up in the secular world I found that the art of relationships was a big game. There were certain things that you were told to do to try and get a girl interested in you. As a boy, I fell into listening to them and attempting to apply them. Each time I would hear…

Love Them By Getting Out Of The Way!

One of the hardest things to do when you love somebody is to step back and allow God to work on that person. When someone is struggling, often we want to do everything that we can to step in and stop the pain that they are experiencing. We want to help in any way that…

Are They For Me?

Love can be a scary thing! The idea of emotionally attaching yourself to a person who can choose to either love you back or tear your heart out and stomp it into the ground can be intimidating. That’s the problem: when we allow emotions to get in the way of seeing the facts. We get…

Love is Blind

Why is it that when we are going through something in our life we are always quick to turn to people for wise counsel? But when it comes to who we date and marry, we tend to throw that wise counsel out the door and make decisions on our own. The emotional side of “Being…