Marriage is two imperfect selfish sinners coming together to glorify God.
So what does this mean for single guy like me? It means everything! Before going into marriage it is critical to know what you are getting into. Nobody goes into marriage thinking that they are going to get a divorce, but it happens. I see it all the time and through this I have begun to question why? Why are people so quick to give up and not want to reconcile any mishaps to move forward and continue on the life journey together? It is because we are selfish sinners.
We all know that God does not take divorce lightly. So with that same mindset we should not take it lightly either, in fact we should do everything that we can to prevent getting our self into a marriage that will fail. Why make life harder than it already is?
The first thing we need to do is have a right understanding of what marriage really is. Marriage is a COVENANT between two people before GOD laying down their lives while putting each other first through the GOOD times and the BAD times. It is, to become each others helpmate through all life circumstances for the purpose to Glorify the Lord in everything that they do. When you live a life of marriage the way GOD intended it to be, He is exalted.
What it is not, is just a pass to move on to the physical side of the relationship. If you can’t help yourself sexually and feel like marriage is the only way to make things right then you really need to check your motives behind getting married. Having this surface understanding of marriage will set you up for a bad marriage that will fail. It isn’t just about sex because that is just a part in the relationship. If you have that idea that you will get married have lots of sex and everything will be perfect, your in for a rude awakening because it is deeper than that. It is a life Journey together until the day you die. It is also not this fairytale that will always be perfect without any complications. It will be hard but will also be blessed if your focus is on Christ.
I have talked to many couples, and I find there is a pattern in their success. First and for most is that they put God first in the relationship. Second is that they are willing to lay down their life for each other through any situation. This works because of how God designed marriage to be. When you focus on Him it changes our lives to want to love each other more. I don’t know about you but I want to be able to love my wifey the way that Christ loves me. How amazing would that be? Unconditional Love
One thing that I am reminded of is that it will be hard, and there will be times that you will want to give up, but divorce should not be an option. Be ready to cling onto God and don’t give up because there is so much joy in the perseverance of the journey. Before you get married remember the person you are going to live your life with is an imperfect selfish sinner just like yourself. Trying to make this work will be tough and require you to sacrifice your time, will, wants, desires, and much more trusting in God as you hold on to his grace in mercy in your life.
What about the ones that have fallen into divorce? A lot of time the church puts divorce as the unpardonable sin. But doesn’t God see all sin as bad? Isn’t that why Christ died on a Cross so that we could be forgiven of those? So, cling on to Christ and know that there is no condemnation in Christ. True repentance = Forgiveness of sins. The more you seek out Christ the more you understand Grace and Mercy. Let that permeate your life and move forward into a world of Joy and total dependance of Christ as you set out on this journey to find your helpmate.
