There is an expectation for people of my age to be married and have children while working on building a lifetime career and building the American dream. Most of my friends are on that path and are living that dream. So what is my problem right? How come I am still single, no kids, and have an uncertainty of what tomorrow will bring for a career? Does that mean something is wrong with me and I don’t fit into the societal standards of today?

I am sure some of you reading this are at the same place in your life now. In a place of wondering why we haven’t found the right person to settle down with. Why is everybody around us having kids and living that life? Right?

Well, first of all as Christians we don’t live in the worlds standards of man’s timing. We live under God’s timing which is perfect for us. When we try to fit our self into today’s culture of WHEN we should get married, we take our focus off of God’s perfect plan and try to manipulate our situation to fit into that standard. The problem with that is we begin to compromise our standards of a partner just to satisfy our fleshly desires.

I don’t know about you, but I am not willing to marry somebody just for the sake of marriage. That is an equation for a lifetime of disaster. The bible talks about being equally yoked for a reason. (Meaning having the same biblical mindset and understanding) Marriage is hard enough as it is, why would you want to make it harder by not allowing God to be the center. As a Christian, this is an absolute must with no compromise allowed.

So, there you go. That took away 90 percent of my options for girls to marry! But now since marriage isn’t just for he sake of sex or emotional fulfillment that leaves me asking the question of calling and willingness to go where the Lord leads. A heart of sacrifice and desire to tell people about the love of Jesus is a very attractive thing. That comes from a strong relationship with Jesus Christ. This changes everything, because a person who loves the Lord more than anything is a person who is willing to do the will of God. When we understand our purpose in life and how temporary it is, we start to put others first and want to share the good news with everybody we encounter. That is called being mission minded.

So you can see that the more you love God, the harder it gets to find a person to live your life with and change the world for Christ. But that is where TRUST comes in. Instead of compromising what matters and jumping into a marriage that will be held together by the strength of human attempts, it is better to wait on the Lord and fully put your trust in the one who can do all things.

If you are struggling with this right now, put your trust in God and keep your mind set on serving the Lord and changing peoples lives for eternity. If I never get married but bring one person to Christ, to spend an eternity in heaven. It was worth it, struggles and all!

Do not compromise to fit into the worlds standard, remember our purpose is to Love God and to love others. Our foundation is built on Christ so don’t allow the second biggest decision of your life to be compromised by not trusting God. Marriage is a beautiful thing when two people that love God come together to love each other.